Attack!

Most are very unreflective of themselves, so much so, knowing this can be advantageous. Among the most revealing and striking effects I often observe about people is their inability to recognize themselves in their attacks on others. It is often their own failings in this regard that make them exquisitely sensitive to them in others, yet remain blind to them in themselves. Most will draw a blank when it comes to their own, but be irate and outraged at it in others, so when they attack others with vehemence and vitriol, they will attack them most for their own weaknesses, thus revealing their own and the degree and substantialness of it. In doing so, they often reveal more about themselves than others. Ask not about their own weaknesses, but what weaknesses they see in others and you will most likely find their own. Speak and speak of yourself.